complaining never was happiness

If you've been following my blog at all, you know I've made it a goal to be happier this year. Except, I keep finding myself complaining. Over everything. But what I don't get, is if I want to be happier, why am I complaining so much? Complaining is not going to make me happy. And almost always just makes me feel bad. And icky.

So why do we {I} complain?

Possible reasons could include:

~to vent frustrations
~vocalizing frustrations often gives validation
~jealousy of others

For me, I think I'm a complainer because I want validation.

"You're tired because you went on a run? That's awesome you even went!"

"You had to work late? That does stink!"

"You got another nail in your tire? Wow, you are so unlucky."

etc. etc. etc.

But do I really need to complain to be validated?

No.

Will complaining make me look better?

No.

Will complaining make me feel better?

No.

Complaining is not going to get me anywhere. It will give me and anyone I'm around a negative attitude and outlook on life. And really, who wants to listen to me complain??

So I decided to read more about complaining. The best piece of advice I read, is to pay attention to when you're complaining. Are you tired? Hungry? Around certain people? Figure out what those triggers are and then fix it so you're complaining anymore. So to do this, I'm going to try and write down what I'm complaining about and what's going on in the moment I'm complaining. I'm hoping by being in-tune to what's going on, I will be more likely to make a change and stop complaining for good. 

Not complaining anymore is important to me because people who don't complain are generally more happy, more enjoyable to be around, have a better outlook on life, are healthier, and more successful. {all things I want to become}

I want to radiate joy and to do so, I need to actively make a choice to stop complaining and more fully enjoy all of the blessings I have!  

From now on, I'm going to talk about the things I love, and zip my mouth about the things I don't.



Quote image: Khemia Popa

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